I get asked all of the time if singing is just something that comes naturally to certain people. “Not everyone can sing. Right?" Or, “I can’t sing at all.”
I am going to let you in on a little secret.
Come closer so I don’t strain my voice.
You absolutely can sing, and you can sing well!
One of the biggests problems is not the singing, it's believing that you can sing. Let’s face it, we all struggle with cultivating a belief in our abilities. We don’t believe we can do it, so we don’t. Another problem is accepting the way that we sound when we sing. We all have our own unique sound, and most of the time we can’t stand listening ourselves. We begin to believe that since it doesn’t sound like Beyonce or Michael Buble, it’s no good.
Here are 5 steps you can take to overcome these problems and get to singin’:
Step 1: Face the fear!
If you let fear get in the way of your singing, you’ll never sing. Facing the fear is almost never as bad as your mind has imagined it to be. As human beings, we tend to create a lot of needless anxiety. We start with a small disbelief that, over time, can turn into this crippling force within us. FACE THE FEAR. If you need help facing the fear, and many of us do, reach out to people that are encouraging and will cheer you on. We all need those types of people in your lives.
Step 2: Love your voice!
It takes some getting used to, but, you truly do need to love your voice. Or at least, like it. It takes time to listen back to a recording or watch a video of yourself and accept that you may not sound like that dream voice you created in your head. You must believe, however, that your voice is unique and, in its own way, beautiful. My biggest example of a not-so-pretty voice is Bob Dylan. He is an amazing songwriter, but his voice is far from “pretty." He delivers an enticing story through his voice and lyrics. That is what makes his voice… beautiful.
Now, I am not saying that this is an excuse to avoid learning proper technique, or to not try your best to improve your singing. You do, however, have to learn to accept who you are and what you have to offer. Trust me, it is beautiful.
Step 3: Be Yourself!
Stop trying to sound like everyone else. As I said in step 2, you are your own unique voice. When you try to imitate other singers you are just replicating the same thing everyone has already heard, and most of the time we do not succeed at imitating them perfectly.
Step 4: Practice!
Yes, the P word… Practice. You will develop more confidence when you know what you are doing. When you have not practiced and rehearsed, then your mistakes can shake your confidence, leadng to the self-defeating thoughts, leading to less belief, and on and on. I cannot express it enough how important it is for you to practice.
Step 5: Be patient!
It is true that some people have natural talent. I wouldn't be honest if I did not address that fact. However, in order for you to have the voice you are hoping to have, you must be patient. Keep working and it will come (and, contrary to recent buzz words and ideas, it doesn't take 10,000 hours). Think about anything you’ve done in life that mattered to you. Most of the time it did not just automatically happen, it took time. Be patient and be nice to yourself. It will come.
Even the most naturally talented and gifted singers will tell you that it's a life-long pursuit, and well-worth it.
Yes, we ALL can sing. I believe you can and you have to believe it to.
Ok, now let’s go sing!